I will read Jorden Petersons’ book 12 Rules For Life as I have listened so much to his work and how others have experienced it, and I thought I would have a read for myself.
Rule 1:
Stand up straight with your shoulders back
Jorden talks a lot about lobsters, how their brain chemical changes when moving up and down the local social hierarchy in the lobster world, and how it relates to other species, including humans.
Erratic sleeping and eating habits can interfere with your body’s inner mechanisms. The body needs to function like a well-rehearsed orchestra. Every system must play its roles perfectly with the rest of the body. Waking up consistently in the morning assists the Cyclical Circadian Rhythm to mediate negative emotions. Also, eat breakfast with no sugars or carbs, just a heavy fat and protein breakfast.
Standing up straight provides a positive feedback loop, as emotions are a part of bodily expressions and can be amplified in this way. If you straighten up, people will look at and treat you differently, including yourself, and their reactions will amplify. Standing up means voluntarily accepting the burden of being, and your nervous system responds differently when you face the demands of life that way. To stand up straight with your shoulders back is to accept the terrible responsibility of life with eyes wide open. It gives off confidence, calmness, and the ability to think in the long term, and it can mean that you can afford to be a reliable and thoughtful person.
People will start to assume that you are competent and able. Emboldened by the positive responses you will receive, you will be less anxious. You will then find it easier to notice the subtle social clues people exchange when communicating. Your conversations will flow better with fewer awkward pauses. This will make you more likely to meet, interact, and impress them. Doing so will not only genuinely increase the probability that good things will happen to you, it will make these things feel better when they do happen.
Speak your mind and put your desires forward as if you have a right to them, at least the same right as others. walk tall and gaze ahead. Dare to be dangerous. Encourage the serotonin to flow plentifully through the neural pathways desperate for its calming influence.