I genuinely believe that a husband is not just a title but an expression of love husbands should have for their wives, creating an environment for her to thrive in. If she is failing in life, he has failed because that means he didn’t create an environment healthy enough for her.
Not every woman is a wife, however, as the beauty of a woman is in submission from a place of respect that she can be valuable to the man’s leadership. This means your marriage has a mission your husband is leading, and you are standing behind it. You can have your thoughts and feelings, but to everyone else, there’s a united front because you have discussed the mission, decided on the mission and agreed on the mission, and then you can submit to the mission.
Women have such power as they are natural carriers; they birth things and bring life to the world, literally and spiritually. In a marriage, I’m not here to struggle for power with the man I respect because he isn’t only my best friend and lover; he is the head of the household. I honour him with the willingness to say I trust you to weave the rope of your being with mine to strengthen our joint rope. That doesn’t mean we will not talk things through as partners. It doesn’t mean that we’re not going to have healthy dialogues and healthy debates, but that there is respect and honour that I give you as my husband.
Showing up in the world as your authentic self is most important in all relationships. It’s saying what you want to say, but in a way, he can accept it because no one likes to be told what to do; they like to feel like they figured it out on their own and are done with it; that’s what a good wife is.
Marriage is possibly the highest priority because if it isn’t strong, the family isn’t strong. The marriage gives the family a sense of strength, wholeness and security. Commit to discussing everything honestly because you’ll have challenging problems to solve. If the other person isn’t willing to give an opinion, you only have half of the cognitive power you would otherwise have.
What would I like to change to foster and maintain a beneficial relationship with my husband?
First, I will work on having a “Date” either on a Tuesday night or on Wednesday sometime.
Next, I will make Thursday a day to open dialogue about the house and what we expect to handle going forward.
Other things I want to explore are making sure he is cared for. He is warm and fed, his environment is clean and esthetically pleasing, and the activities he does every day are more straightforward. I also want to find ways to remind him how much I appreciate the work he does for me and our family.
